I’m not sure how long I’ve been waiting for this moment. In fact, I’m not sure I even knew it was missing until the past few years when I thought to myself: “Why don’t we as women feel more comfortable talking about what we want, what we like and how we can better ourselves?”
I’m talking about sexual wellness. And now, I can’t stop thinking, or talking, about it.
Aside from the fact that my role as a women’s health practitioner has opened my eyes to the many physical and emotional challenges women face when it comes to intimate wellness, media is starting to raise the point, too. I read an article in The New York Times recently called “The Joys (and Challenges) of Sex After 70” that raised this issue eloquently (among other topics on sexual health). But everywhere I turn I feel as though there’s something else to read, watch or listen to—from the Netflix series Love, Sex & Goop to books like “The Wild Woman’s Way: Unlock Your Full Potential for Pleasure, Power, and Fulfillment”.
So what’s changed? It isn’t as if women just woke up and realized we want healthy sex lives. It seems more probable that we are starting to feel we have more “permission” to talk about it; the fact that it’s okay to think about what we want and what we like and to find support in those areas is becoming more normalized.
As a society, we’ve focused on men’s pleasure for seemingly all of time. Now, women are climbing into the spotlight and into the conversation and realizing, it isn’t a sin, it isn’t something to hide—our sexuality is an important part of our health and wellness, and is something to celebrate.
The aforementioned article in The New York Times reads, in small part:
…Some couples therapists don’t talk about sex with their clients. Many primary-care doctors don’t raise the topic either. The American Medical Student Association says 85 percent of medical students report receiving fewer than five hours of sexual-health education. (The University of Minnesota is an outlier, requiring 20 hours.)
…“Most physicians don’t ask questions and don’t know what to do if there’s a problem,” says Dr. June La Valleur, a recently retired obstetrician-gynecologist and associate professor who taught at the University of Minnesota’s medical school. “They think their patients are going to be embarrassed. In my opinion, you cannot call yourself a holistic practitioner unless you ask those questions.”
This article focuses primarily on sex and age, which is a crucial topic when it comes to women’s intimacy, particularly given what our bodies go through during and after menopause. But age is far from the only issue women face when optimizing their intimate wellness. Dr. La Valleyr was right, asking the right questions and providing holistic meaningful support is where most of traditional medicine falls short–whether you’re seeking help at 40 or 80!
In the past few years I’ve shifted my focus to helping drive this sexual health revolution forward—to help women not only feel comfortable seeking support but providing resources that can actually make a difference. At the Age Management Center of New England, we don’t shy away from the topic, we encourage it.
In fact, we launched an entire division to help women from their 20s to their 70s address and enhance their intimate wellness. We have the resources, expertise and techniques available to change lives for the better, based on individual needs and personal goals. Our aim is to help more women understand that seeking help in these areas isn’t taboo, it isn’t selfish and it isn’t out of the ordinary.
I invite you to pause, get curious, and prioritize your intimate health.
I love 50! It is my healthiest self so far–physically, mentally and intimately.
It’s time to give yourself permission to make a change.
If you’d like to speak with me about your intimate health questions or concerns, let’s schedule a free, confidential screening to get started. There’s no commitment, just a conversation.
I look forward to hearing from you.